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Ben James's avatar

Former pastor here. I recognize that my experience is not universal, but I'm going to share it anyway. I served in an associate role in a mainline church for two years before leaving for seminary. Four years later, I was sent to pastor a church without a full understanding of the unique challenges that church faced. I was fresh out of seminary and despite my two years I served prior to seminary, I was still about as green as I could possibly be and it showed. My inexperience coupled with the issues that church had resulted in me only being there one year and a significant number of people leaving the church. It was one of the hardest, most soul-crushing years of my life. I was then sent to a church that was much smaller but also much more like the kinds of churches I was used to. I stayed there three years and while I enjoyed my time there and the people, it was a struggle to try to figure out a way to get some momentum going to build the church up. I was then abruptly moved again to another church right as the Covid pandemic was starting up. The year that I was at that church was even more difficult and harsh than my first year was. I was already showing the signs of burnout and it was obvious to everyone that I wasn't a good fit for the church. Finally, I was reassigned one more time, but by that point I wanted nothing more than to be free of pastoring. The following year I exited pastoral ministry for good and have not returned. In the end, I served for six years before leaving and I honestly have no desire to go back.

I think it's hard sometimes for people who either have never been a pastor or had a close friend or family member that is one to understand just what pastors go through. It's easily one of the loneliest and most stressful jobs on Earth. I went in as a naive young brand-new pastor without any real clue about what I was getting into. I came out feeling like I had been put through a mental and spiritual grinder.

John Evans-Klock's avatar

I know of highly qualified and excellent pastors who have not been hired or have been fired for dumb reasons. I suspect cranky old folks in the pews.

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